Intuitive Healing Course!

"Charu’s Intuitive Healing course is exactly what humanity needs and is asking for…… pure love in action!" -Jo Pollit

On the 24th and 25th February, I held the first weekend of my new Intuitive Healing Course here in Cheddar, in southwest England. It was a phenomenal experience to see how fast people can transform and what beautiful healing can come through them after just a couple of days! The participants were drawn from all walks of life, with varying degrees of experience in healing. It was a pleasure to watch them bond effortlessly and mature rapidly in their capacity as healers inside the space the course provided.

We began with a meditation and intention-setting that brought us into clarity and focus for what we wanted to achieve. Each activity we did facilitated deeper and deeper shifts. The sharing and Q & A was deeply investigative, thought-provoking and touching. The attunements were very strong, and the paired healing and sensing was deep and profound. It was beautiful to provide the opportunity for the group to delve into some creative artistic expression and to do a beautiful group healing exercise with each person receiving healing in the middle of the circle of budding healers. We had gorgeous, spring-like weather and got to play outside as well, in the sunny garden with a view of Cheddar Gorge! I am so pleased to finally be offering this teaching, after many years of feeling called!

I am off to North America in a month, teaching and offering individual treatments in several locations. I’m making plans for Vancouver Island early/mid April, San Francisco Bay Area, Sacramento and L.A.throughout May, and June, and NY early July. I am in the process of solidifying dates and venues. Please email me with any suggestions and/or contacts you might have for my trip.

If you are in the U.S. and would like to do the course or have a treatment, let me know. Where are you located? Would you attend the course if we could provide accommodation? I take all of your feedback into consideration as I plan venues and the routing of the trip. I am still looking for venues along the West Coast and in New York, and would also very much appreciate a place to stay and publicity. If you know people in the States who might be interested in healing, please introduce me to them, forwarding this newsletter on to them. If you love what I do, tell other people about it! Help me help the world, creating Oneness through healing!

"Charu is a unique and powerful healer; her presence is one of compassion and care for everyone she meets. It was a complete privilege to be offered an opportunity to spend time learning and being with this remarkable healer and carer of humanity. I felt so safe, nurtured and nourished over the 2 days, this allowed me to fully open up and embrace my own healing, whilst learning a powerful, pure, natural healing technique. The only thing that made it easier leaving this course and the energy that it created was knowing that I’m going back!!"
-Jo Pollit

Moving Beyond Forgiveness

How would it be to finally realise and accept your own humanness:  your fallibility, your struggles and challenges, your imperfections?  Wouldn't that give space for everyone else to be utterly human too?  We hear so much about forgiveness in healing and self-development circles, but do we really need to forgive?  What does forgiveness actually mean?

If we unpick forgiveness, we realise that inherent in any idea of forgiveness is the judgment of something as bad or wrong that needs to be forgiven.  Yet aren't we also encouraged to give up all our judgments?  How can these two things go hand in hand?  Aren't these two concepts mutually exclusive?

Imagine what happens to our internal relationship with ourselves when we try to cultivate self-forgiveness.  On one hand, we are believing the judgement that something we did was bad and wrong, and then on the other hand, we are telling ourselves that we are a good person: big enough to forgive and deserving of forgiveness.  It’s really giving ourselves mixed messages!

Last week I had the experience of realising that it was possible to recognise that something I had done did not serve me without making myself wrong for it.  I didn't need to forgive myself because I was able to distinguish that I didn't need forgiveness.  What I needed instead, was to acknowledge that the choice I had made did not serve my highest intentions. I also needed self-love and compassion to understand what limitations had held me back.

If this is true with something we ourselves have done, would we be able to apply it to the actions of others or even past events that we have carried with us?  So often we get caught in the trap of feeling stuck because something happened in the past that we are unable to let go of.  If I want to forgive you, I am actually belittling you by judging your behaviour as wrong and then being the big person, the one who forgives you!  It is in effect a power play, a way to strengthen our own egos, in the guise of being good and right and loving. 

In the process of trying to forgive past events, we solidify them in our own minds as wrong in order to cultivate the forgiveness that we seek from ourselves, from others, or for others. We are underscoring the idea that we or another person ‘should’ have done better. Is it not true that we all do the best that we can at any given time? We may not live up to the highest capacity that we know resides within us, but we do what we are capable of in that moment. If we drop the idea that we or others have done something wrong and ‘should’ have done better, we can investigate in a much more constructive manner. We can calmly analyze, with love, not criticism, why our capacity was limited at that moment, and learn from this reflection.

What does it mean to ‘move beyond forgiveness’?

The idea is simple, instead of judging and determining that a particular behaviour is bad or wrong, you simply look and see: did it really serve your or the other’s intentions?  Did it reflect your/their highest capacity?  Was love present in the choice and in the action?

Look for what you know to be good and loving in yourself or in the other person, and then acknowledge any limitations you or they might have – challenges from the past, insecurities or fears about how you/they will be perceived or whether you/they will be liked, guilt because you/they didn’t communicate as clearly as you/they would have liked, difficulty in expressing your/their needs.  For whatever reason, recognise that you or the other person were just not able to do any better in that moment. 

It’s all very basic human stuff at the end of the day, and the more we can allow ourselves to be fallible and admit our weaknesses, the more we can give the same space to others.